Cornerstone Community Centre,
Wednesday 4 October
I really enjoyed talking about my book to the audience at the StressBusters 6th
Birthday Party. I had a great response and some interesting questions about my
ideas on breaking free of insomnia. I’m looking forward to giving more talks
Diary of An Ex-Insomniac
Our special guest this evening was Nicki Gillard, author of the honest, insightful and humorous memoir ‘Diary of an Ex-Insomniac: Introducing the Insomnia Ditch-and-Switch’. In the engaging and honest talk, Nicki shared with us her years of struggle with insomnia and the ex-insomniac mind-set she eventually developed (the ‘Ditch-and-Switch’ method).
Just like we don’t really make ourselves breathe, we also don’t need to make ourselves sleep (or get to sleep, which is another linguistic trap that implies action on our part). Sleep is a natural bodily function and our body will do it when it’s ready. We can decide that we want to rest and that’s absolutely fine – whether or not this ends in sleep is beside the point…. we’ll sleep when we’re ready and stressing about it certainly won’t help! It all really comes down to labeling problems and ‘trying’ to do something instead of just letting the nature take its course. If we get into the insomniac mind-set, we perpetuate the vicious circle. This applies not just to sleep problems, but stress and life in general!
During the talk we also touched on several myths about sleep, including whether or not it’s necessary to sleep for a certain number of hours or whether we need to have uninterrupted sleep at all, instead of sleeping in blocks. Whatever our natural sleep pattern is like, we need to accept it and go with the flow – instead of lying in the dark and stressing about not being able to sleep, we might as well do something we enjoy, whether it’s lying in the dark and simply resting, or switching the light on and reading our favourite book. Just stop trying to sleep – it simply won’t work!
Following the publication of her book, Nicki is now dedicating her time to helping others find a way out of the insomniac mind-set. She has started running regular drop-in sessions in Rottingdean, to hear about people’s experiences of insomnia and stress, and to suggest how her approach might help – contact her for more information.
Open Art Café,
Tuesdays 11am to midday
through July, August and September
I’ve talked about my book with quite a few people now since I started the ‘drop-ins’ at the Open Art Café.
It’s been so interesting to hear all sorts of opinions and comments about sleep, about stress and about life in general.
I’ve chatted to people about my ideas based on my experience of insomnia, stresses in my life and how the ex-insomniac mindset has worked for me.
I’m looking forward to meeting new people – or those coming back again – and having more fascinating conversations.
Now my book is available on Amazon, some people may read it and then want to come along and ask me about it. I’ll see how it evolves over August and September…